Sex Addiction

What is Sex Addiction?

Sexual addiction is best described as a progressive intimacy disorder characterized by compulsive sexual thoughts and acts. Like all addictions, its negative impact on the addict and on family members increases as the disorder progresses. Over time, the addict usually needs to intensify the addictive behavior in order to achieve the same results.
The 10 Signs of Sex Addiction:
  • Loss of Control: Clear behavior in which you do more than you want.
  • Compulsive Behavior: A pattern of out of control behavior over time.
  • Efforts to Stop: Repeated specific attempts to stop the behavior, which fail.
  • Loss of Time: Significant amounts of time lost doing and/or recovering from the behavior
  • Preoccupation: Obsessing about or because of the behavior.
  • Inability to Fulfill Obligations: The behavior interferes with work, school, family, and friends.
  • Continuation Despite Consequences: Failure to stop the behavior even though you have problems because of it (social, legal, financial, physical).
  • Escalation: Need to make behavior more intense, more frequent, or more high risk.
  • Losses: Losing, limiting, or sacrificing valued parts of life such as hobbies, family, relationships and work.
  • Withdrawal: Stopping behavior causes considerable distress, anxiety, restlessness, irritability, or physical discomfort.
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10 Types of Sex Addiction:
  • Fantasy Sex – Sexually charged fantasies, relationships, and situations. Arousal depends on sexual possibility.
  • Seductive Role Sex – Seduction of partners.  Arousal is based on conquest and diminishes rapidly after initial contact.
  • Voyeuristic Sex – Visual arousal. The use of visual stimulation to escape into obsessive trance.
  • Exhibitionistic Sex – Attracting attention to one’s body or sexual parts of the body. Sexual arousal stems from reaction of viewer, whether shock or interest.
  • Paying for Sex – Purchasing of sexual services. Arousal is connected to payment for sex, and with time the arousal actually becomes connected to the money itself.
  • Trading Sex – Selling or bartering sex for power. Arousal is based on gaining control of others by using sex as leverage.
  • Intrusive Sex – Boundary violation without discovery. Sexual arousal occurs by violating boundaries with no repercussions.
  • Anonymous Sex – High-risk sex with unknown persons. Arousal involves no seduction or cost and is immediate.
  • Pain Exchange Sex – Being humiliated or hurt as part of sexual arousal; or sadistic hurting or degrading another person sexually, or both.
  • Exploitative Sex – Exploitation of the vulnerable. Arousal patterns are based on target ‘types’ of vulnerability.