Heathy Relationships & Relationship Therapy

What is Relationship Therapy?
Relationship therapy is the process by which the parties in any relationship make an effort to learn how to better manage troublesome differences and repeating patterns of stress. The relationship involved may be between members of a family, a couple, employees or employers in a workplace, or between a professional and a client. The process of communication is a primary focus in relationship therapy. 
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What Composes a Healthy Relationship?

 

  • You and your partner are on the same page in terms of your basic values and life goals. You both know what you want out of life, have identified your common goals, and are firmly committed to achieving them together.
  • There is a strong sense of trust between you. You openly discuss everything—the good, the bad, and the ugly. Neither partner has a hidden agenda or secrets from his/her past.
  • You keep your own identity within the relationship and so does your partner. This is so vital. Marriage or romantic partnership may be a large piece of the whole pie that identifies who you are, but you’re still an individual with a multitude of roles in your life.
  • You spend quality time together doing things that are mutually fulfilling as well as time apart doing things that are important to you individually.
  • You encourage each other to grow and change, inspiring each other to be better people.
  • You and your partner feel safe communicating personal needs and wants. You set aside time to discuss issues relevant to you as a couple and to each of you individually. You listen carefully with undivided attention, which is essential to real understanding.
  • You respect each other’s differences even if you disagree on important issues. You are able to turn your differences into fair compromise.
  • You share realistic expectations for the relationship, rather than focusing on what you wish or fantasize it should be. Remember that you’re dealing with another extraordinarily complex individual in addition to yourself. Your partner is enough without your pursuing unrealistic ideals.
  • Each of you contributes your fair share to the relationship, bringing your strengths and abilities for the benefit of the “team.”
  • You and your partner honor each other’s family ties and friendships. While it’s important to set aside time for family and friends, it’s also important to maintain healthy boundaries between you and your partner as a unit apart from other close relationships.
Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship:
  • One or both partners is controlling
  • One or both partners blames the other for his/her feelings
  • One or both partners is needy
  • One of both partners creates different standards for the other
  • One or both partners tries to change the other
  • One or both partners disregards the other’s goals
  • One or both partners directs anger towards the other